Choosing a partner and staying together is not simple. When we choose to get married and raise a family, unsurprisingly this can become complex.

Whether you bicker or have full-blown arguments or you've simply stopped having fun there is a need for a discussion. When one of our most important relationships begins to falter, our health and happiness often suffers. While for many of us our first instinct is to try and work through problems alone, it can be incredibly useful to seek outside help.

One route you may choose is couple counselling.

There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling, ranging from a lack of communication right through to a betrayal or affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:

        • lack of trust
        • betrayal or affair
        • jealousy
        • lack of communication
        • financial issues
        • work-related stress
        • different sexual needs or other sexual issues
        • family conflicts
        • different goals and values
        • different parenting styles
        • life changes

This list is not exhaustive and every situation is unique. Whatever the concern is however, speaking to a professional is often an incredibly helpful step forward.

When working with couples I look to improve communication and resolve issues within an intimate relationship. It is importnat that couples look for a specially trained therapist who is able to facilitate the dynamics of the two people at the same time. I am trained with the Relate Institute. 

In regards to the techniques used, some of the work you do will take place within your counselling sessions themselves - however I will also ask you to carry out 'homework'. Typically I will ask you either to do a task or discuss something specific when you get home. During your next session you will get the chance to talk about your homework, discuss any challenges you came up against and how the experience made you both feel.

 

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you do the following:

  • Learn why arguments escalate.
  • Communicate in a more constructive way.
  • Understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
  • Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present.
  • Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.

As your counselling sessions progress, you and your partner may find a way of overcoming your problems, or you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, hopefully counselling will offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you.

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